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Comments From Those That Have Chosen To Be Bra-Free:
We would love to have your story added to this column. If you would like to contribute your comments about how you decided to become bra-free, or what trials and tribulations you found in adopting this new lifestyle, or if you would like to describe your thoughts about whether you would encourage others to do likewise, please feel free to write it down and send it in to Ken@BreastNotes.com. He will work with you and allow you full editorial control over your story. Others are anxious to hear from you.

If you have not worn a bra for the majority of your life, or you have made the choice to no longer wear a bra for the major part of your day, we would dearly appreciate hearing from you.

 
Story Number One  --  from Krystale Story Number Two -- from Brenda D. Lemus
Story Number Three  --  from Skye Story Number Four -- from Christie Aphrodite
Story Number Five  --  from Louise  

 

 

Story Number One  -- 
  
from    Krystale
It was a bit tougher for her as she is lactating
"No longer considering breast reduction... pain is gone... breasts lifted... perkier... no leakage... "
I'm a 44DD (E, I know... but they don't actually sell them that way) and I've done just fine without a bra for well over two years. In the summer, or when I want to be a little discrete, or for work, instead of wearing undershirts I wear those tank tops with the extra... "shelf tank" I think they're called. They're like a two layered tank, and the bottom layer has under-the-bust elastic (but it ends there). They absorb moisture and it gives an extra two layers of cotton to attempt to blend my nipples. Sometimes I wear a jacket when I'm feeling self-conscious. (I was raised by the "good girls wear bras" mother Ken spoke of.)
 
Before I went braless, I was considering breast reduction, because the pain in my back and shoulders was unbearable. Before I even knew who Ken was I ran across his article one day and switched first to tanks with built-in bras (but removed the under-wires) and then moved on to the "shelf tanks". These days I have no problem going out in just a T-shirt. The back and shoulder pain is GONE, except for a stressful day now and then. The pain used to be constant. My breasts don't hang nearly so low as they used to when I'd take my bra off. While they still get sensitive during my cycle, they don't HURT like they used to. And although I'm lactating, I don't "leak" and I have no need for pads (my flow isn't heavy, which probably helps). I think having been bra free before lactating has something to do with it. Nothing is squeezing anything out.  
                                                                                                                                            Krystale

Later, she added this note:

On a happy note... bra-free life is still great. The nursing has made them perkier and stronger too. I even got away with going bra-free (despite my cup size) in a Fashion Bug fashion show! They offered a bra but didn't fuss when I refused politely. Be well and nurse merrily.
                                                                                                                                                                              
Krystale

 

Story Number Two -- 
  
from    Brenda D. Lemus
She questions her decision to ever begin wearing a bra
"...I was told women SHOULD wear one... now my breasts do what they're supposed to do..."

FREEDOM TO THE BREASTS!

Have you ever wondered why you wear a bra?  Moreover, did you ever question it?  I certainly didn’t in the beginning, which is rather strange since I have always questioned everything in my life.  I remember the first time I wore one of these contraptions--and it was certainly not due to my mother’s or family’s subjection to society’s traditions, for they failed to realize that I was developing into a young woman in those days.  So, embarrassed by the fact that every one of my female classmates was already wearing one of these things, and that it was getting obvious that I might “need” one very soon, I asked my best friend if she thought that her mother could give me a bra for my birthday.  Obviously, I was too embarrassed to ask my mother to buy me one.  So, the day came when I, in fact, tried on the so called bra, and... Oh My! Was that an uncomfortable and awkward day for me.  All of a sudden, I felt as if my little breasts had been imprisoned in what seemed to me a questionable item to wear.  That was at age fourteen. 

Then, by age twenty, this “thing” about the bra really bothered me, until one day I said to myself: “Wait a minute . . . why is it that I keep wearing this thing?  It is definitely uncomfortable, I can never find the ‘right’ size (I used to wear an ‘A’ cup, but somehow nothing ever fit me), it is expensive,  and most important of all... men don’t use one!  So, why should I wear one?  Do I need this?”  And, of course, the answer was “NO!”   So, I simply stopped wearing a bra!  And, oh my, was that a great feeling!  Free! No longer subjected to a contraption that I never wanted in the first place, but I began to use because I thought that is what all women should do.   

My friends began to tell me that not wearing a bra  was certainly not a good idea because now my breasts were going to sag earlier in life! Yeah, right!  As if a pair of “A” cup breasts had much to fear in this respect!  And, even if I had been a “D” like my mother, there is no way in the world that I was going to go back to “prison” after experiencing the comfort of simply letting my breasts do what they are supposed to do:  be naturally braless!  I was also told that now my breasts were going to hurt without support.  Well, up to this date, I don’t know what they were talking about since I never experienced any pain of any kind. 

No embarrassment ever happened either.  I discovered that simply wearing a snug camisole did the trick to “hide” those breasts that no one is supposed to “see.”  And, as far as clothing is concerned, I simply continued wearing the same clothes that I wore before.  I just refused to let my life be ruled by what society had imposed on me as a woman.  And so far... no one has ever complained! 

Now, there have been some "looking" every now and then, especially from my male counterparts, who seem rather curious to find out whether I, in fact, am wearing “nothing” underneath my clothes, as my nipples often protrude through the clothes I am wearing.  But, you know what?  I could not care less if they protrude!  I figured that if male nipples sometimes protrude as much as mine (just maybe in a smaller proportion), and they don’t seem to worry about it, why should I? Moreover, I don’t let my being braless prevent me from wearing any clothes that I might want to wear. In fact, some clothes look particularly sexy without a bra! 

So, I don’t let this “nipple problem” deter me from letting my breasts be free under my clothes.  I think that it is time for women to be themselves from all points of view, and to let go of all those societal taboos that seem to constrict us from being who we are: Women! With breasts! That do have nipples!  

One concern of many women regarding the health of their breasts is their movement, and the possibility that they will inevitably sag if a bra is not worn.  People tend to think that the bra actually helps prevent their breasts from sagging by minimizing their movement. However, this could not be farther from the truth.  By not wearing a bra the ligaments of the breast actually get stronger, allowing greater support to the breasts and minimizing their movement.  And this is exactly what has happened to me over the years of running, biking, swimming and powerlifting.  Even when I run now at a small size “B” cup the breast movement is slight and not uncomfortable at all. 

So, in short, my experience as a woman who has not worn a bra for over 90% of her life has been great, and my only regret is having ever worn one!  I have very avidly tried to convince other women to not wear a bra.  The results and consequences of living bra-free are wonderful, and extremely liberating.  Moreover, to be braless is not only exhilarating, but healthier, by all means, and I am sure that there are many more people out there that would embrace the idea of women being braless.  Some of them might be our male partners--husbands, friends, etc.  For all I know, my husband of thirteen years was always happy with the idea of my being bra-free, and never asked me to wear one, nor would I have ever listened anyway.   

Finally, while it is true that being small breasted has made things much easier for me to be bra-free, all women, whether large breasted or small, can manage to be braless in a subtle and effective manner.  Be brave, and venture into a new and healthier way of living for your breasts.  But, above all, think.  Think whether what you are doing with your body when you wear your bra is worth your discomfort, and most importantly, your health.  Wearing a bra is not healthy.  Among several of its disadvantages, wearing a bra interferes with the normal function of the lymphatic flow throughout your breasts, it atrophies the Cooper's Ligaments (thus allowing your breasts to further sag), and it keeps your breasts at a higher temperature than they are supposed to be. 

It is clear that my 51-year old breasts have certainly not suffered from my not wearing a bra for the last thirty-three years. This image was taken in late 2010. I believe that their lifted stature is a direct result of my Ligaments of Cooper actively supporting my breasts while I ran and did my powerlifting.

I share this information with everyone that I can relay this message to, and hope that one day we will all go back to what should once more come natural to us--the freedom of our breasts!

Brenda

 

Story Number Three  -- 
  
from    Skye
Treat this one as a BLOG... Skye welcomes your comments and questions.
"...they never did fit right... it is so much cooler in the summer... write me about YOUR thoughts..."
 

My name is Skye. I am in my forties, married, with two children. To physically describe me, I am a tall woman and I like to describe my weight as being "sturdy". I'm actually between 175 and 180 lbs. I'm not really shy about my weight as you can see. Like almost everyone, I'd like to drop a few pounds but that will come in time, especially now that summer is coming. I am a 38-C in breast size.

Several factors encouraged me to go bra-less. I watched a very beloved family member pass away from a nearly fifteen-year fight with breast cancer. Quite frankly she was one of the bravest women that I have ever met. Because of the breast cancer issues, my husband has encouraged me to stop wearing bras.

I also chose to go bra-less because I could never find a bra that would fit... and that I could afford. Being a big woman, most bras would cut into my chest and shoulders. I have also had bras where one breast would fit and the other one wouldn't . I bought a silicone insert to "balance" myself out. I also felt very constricted while wearing a bra. I felt like I had iron bands wrapped around my chest restricting my breathing.

I live in the Southwest and the heat here at times can be unbearable. I hate to sweat into bras. I have tried going bra-less before and found that I have been more comfortable without them.

I am also a little rebellious in nature. I try not to fall into the marketing traps. Companies tell you "If you buy my product, you will be more attractive." My rebelliousness (or stubbornness?) nags at me when it comes to that kind of pressure. I tell myself that I know better, but I sometimes cave in to it anyway, and usually I'm disappointed. This attitude applies to wearing bras, and I feel I don't need a bra or a certain brand of bra to make me feel more attractive.

I have chosen to talk about this issue for several reasons. I would like to encourage women who want to go bra-less to make the intelligent decision to do so. I don't want it to appear that I'm pushing women to go without a bra, because I don't feel that it is right to push my beliefs on someone else. These are MY reasons why I have decided to go bra-less. I hope to put a human element to this topic by later describing my feelings, some of my second thoughts, the reactions from my employer and friends, etc., because I know I will face opposition when it comes to this topic and I'm willing address those issues.

I hope to hear back from other readers concerning this topic. Please address your comments and questions for me to Skye here at BreastNotes.com . I hope to not only learn from this bra-less experience but from others who write in as well.

I wish everyone a wonderful day.

                                                                                                                                            Skye

 

Story Number Four  -- 
  
from    Christie
"The bra-free thing has done MUCH more for me than just the physical benefits, but I will try to remember them all here to share with you......."
 
Wow Ken! Thank you so much! Your article is FABULOUS and I think it will REALLY make a difference for women, being that they ALWAYS seem to bring up the question of what they see on National Geographic and ultra sagging breasts. I think that is one of the biggest things that keeps women from ditching the bras! How crazy is that, huh? Looks over health! I always try to explain to them that not ALL cultures are that way and that SOME actually tug at their breasts to make them longer due to their beliefs in their society...
 
Those photos will REALLY blow people's minds! EXCELLENT WORK THERE! Thank you! :-)
 
The bra free thing has done MUCH more for me than just the physical benefits... Not only have my breasts lifted and don't hang in my armpits anymore when lying on my back, I have lost my stretch marks, as well as the cysts and a clearly hard and firm lump I had in my left breast before I removed my bra.
 
No more menstrual pain at all, no breast tenderness, and no more back pain which is something I suffered with ever since I can remember! AND I attribute my emotional, mental and spiritual growth of true freedom and becoming (discovering) my true self to my deciding to be bra-free. It has opened me up in ways that are hard for me to put in words, but I was able to tackle many fears I have held onto in my life....my self consciousness, my fear of speaking publicly and making videos, my coaching business and it has opened me up to new revelations. I was doing this strictly for health reasons; I had no idea that it not only would help me physically, but emotionally, spiritually and mentally as well. It has helped me accept my femininity in a way that can only be understood by experience. My confidence levels have risen astronomically and I am a much happier person over all.
Go figure...it's hard to think clearly and get centered when you can't breath! I felt so constricted my whole life and had no idea that it was due to the bra! I was also pretty uptight and easier to 'program' and 'buy into' the self-hate that seems to be promoted! LOL

I knew the bra didn't feel good and I always looked forward to taking it off...but I was also programmed with the idea that I " ...better wear one full time or I will sag even worse!"  HAHAHAAHHAA

 
Blessings and Love,

                                       Christie

 

 Catch a couple of Christie's YouTube videos about her going bra-free at the following locations:

http://souljourneysradio.com/?s=braless&searchsubmit=

http://souljourneysradio.com/free-the-boobies-for-reals-and-other-stuff/

 

Story Number Five  -- 
  
from    Louise
"I consider it my mission to bring others to the bra-free lifestyle/movement!
        If I help one person I will feel forever blessed.
"
 

My Journey Into Becoming Bra Free

For as long as I can remember, even before my breasts started to develop, I found that I have/had extremely sensitive nipples, and they have always been larger than usual. I liked having my breasts free. I remember, as a 9 year old with budding breasts, sneaking into my bedroom to remove the undershirt my mother insisted I wear. Looking back, I think she was concerned about my larger nipples showing through my dresses. I didn't like wearing the shirt because I couldn't feel the outer fabric caressing my nipples, or the breeze blowing through my shirt when I was wearing it. Because my nipples were so sensitive I missed the pleasure their stimulation provided to me. Then as my breasts grew, I was always looking at them and marveling at what beautiful things they were. I graduated into wearing a bra at 10 years old (again at my mother's insistence) and that was it. Other than losing that nice sensation, I never questioned wearing a bra... ever. I never slept in one though, and loved the feeling of my nipples being naked under my night gown when I took the bra off at bedtime.

As an adolescent and throughout high school, I was hyper aware if my large nipples would stick out through my bra. At one point I tried using Band-Aids over my nipples (inside my bra) to hold them down. I was mortified to have anyone look at them. I would hold my school books over them when in the hallway, or wear super heavy clothing to hide them. They were always so sensitive to everything (still are), and reacted to everything by poking straight out.

I was diagnosed at age 13 with ovarian cancer. They only found it because I had a cyst the size of a football on my left ovary. My OB/Gyn took the ovary and a large margin "just in case", and that is what saved me. I have been cancer free to this day. I gave birth to 4 beautiful children and went into menopause in my mid-forties.

I was widowed at 24 while I was 7 months pregnant with my third child. I remarried two years later to a real 'breast' man, and after having breastfed three babies, my breasts had shrunken down to be quite small (an A-cup). My new husband wanted me to have a breast augmentation surgery, and I agreed because I felt inadequate for his taste being so flat-chested. The implants were silicone, a C-cup size, and became hard very quickly. After that I had one more child which I also breastfed.

Fast forward 13 years... I was divorced with four teenagers at home. I went for my first mammogram at age 38 only to find the silicone implants had ruptured. I had them removed and replaced them with saline implants which I still have. Unfortunately the surgeon did not remove all the free floating silicone in my body. More about that later.

Throughout my adult life, I have been plagued with fibroid breast cysts. The results of my mammograms for years required a follow up ultrasound, luckily showing nothing of a worrisome nature, but I continued to have the breast cysts. Still it's scary and stressful - waiting close to a month from the time of the mammogram to the final results of the ultrasound.

As my menopausal weight gain came along, my breasts grew, and with that came more and more cysts. Nothing to cause concern, but still that scary waiting period after each annual mammogram. Then I went to my OB/Gyn for hormone replacement pellets (bio-identical and the safest, most natural way of hormone replacement therapy). With each treatment my breasts would enlarge to the point that I now have a 36DD bra size. With the weight of my breasts increasing, I found grooves in my shoulders from my straps, and deep red marks from the under-wire bras I was wearing to bear their weight.

I started ditching my bra the minute I'd walk in the door, and never wore one when I was home unless I had company coming over (by then I was a single empty nester with four grown kids and 5 grandchildren). I tried to go out braless frequently (when my attire wouldn't give me away) only for the sake of comfort. Then I'd feel self-conscious about myself so I'd strap myself back in for the sake of convention.

About two years ago I was researching being bra-free on the internet, including here on BreastNotes.com, and discovered the many issues I've had over the years (the painful bras and fibroid cysts) were being caused by wearing a bra. So I bit the bullet and shed my bra.

It was a very scary lifestyle transition for me. What will my children think? What if my nipples show? What will the general public think?

Because it's not just taking off a piece of clothing, it's making a complete change in your lifestyle. Your wardrobe needs adjusting, you have to figure out how not to be self-conscious around others, and you need to embrace the liberation. And on top of all that, you have to accept the natural shape of your breasts and how your body looks. It's a very large emotional/mental body-image change. It takes time. I got through it - occasionally wearing a snug tank top under some tops - but mostly being "out there" with nipples blazing. Someone once equated transitioning into bra-lessness to quitting smoking - it takes time and fearlessness to do it.

The good news is - my Cooper's Ligaments became stronger and have lifted my breasts quite a bit (if you are not aware, some methods of saline implant insertions do produce a very natural sag, so yes even though I have implants they do droop very naturally). I'm still a DD-cup, I bounce a lot, and yes, my nipples still peek out a bazillion times a day, but I even go to the gym sans bra - no sports bra or tank top. I'm sure this has contributed to my Cooper's Ligaments doing their job again.

If you are on the fence, maybe some of what I am about to share will help you to remove your breast shackles and empower yourself to be the beautiful, healthy, natural woman you were born to be!!

Did this lifestyle change make my breasts healthier? Absolutely! My annual mammograms no longer require follow up ultrasounds. Hurrah!!! I no longer am getting the fibroid cysts in my breasts, and the ones I still have are getting smaller.

However I do have a collection of silicone (apparently the silicone seeks it's own and clumps together in your chest) but until I have to have them removed I am just living with them. They don't hurt, and they're not causing any problems at this point. I learned just before taking the plunge into bra-freedom that the type of ovarian cancer I had in my youth is very similar to many breast cancers, and having improved mammogram results already is well worth being bra-free. I will do anything in my power to keep my 'girls' healthy and well.

Did I feel weird and strange going braless in the beginning? YES!!!!  Like I said - it's an emotional/mental lifestyle change. Once you embrace it, however, you will feel so empowered and womanly! It will make you a stronger person in every way, because it's unconventional, and it takes a lot of guts to do unconventional things.

Do my breasts look better? Oh yes they do! Breast sagging is reduced as you let your body do what it's supposed to do naturally. The photo below is recent - and for a pair of DD's they're looking pretty good - especially considering I am a 55-year old grandmother of 8! They weren't as perky in the beginning after I eliminated the bra, but I learned to love them when first bra-free for their shape. Now I love them even more.

I have had to make adjustments to the style of tops I wear. I find some of those empire blouses that don't tuck in tight under the bust-line don't work anymore (my breasts hang in the middle of the line). I have to be careful in professional and family settings to ensure I don't wear anything too clingy or see through, or wear anything that will show my nipples (which are VERY large and obvious in the wrong tops). I have learned patterned blouses, t-shirts and dresses are the best route. The patterns camouflage nipples very well.

You just have to go to the stores and be brave and try on clothes until you find what fits you best. Winter is easier as you can layer sweaters, scarves and jackets over your 'girls' and nobody's the wiser. Summers here in AZ are very hot and are more of a challenge. Just get creative. Just think - you get a new wardrobe to go with your new lifestyle. Make it fun!!  Don't fall into the trap - the tic in your brain that says you have to wear only sack-like clothing because your breasts are large and not being held up towards your face. There are so many fun fashions out there for every imaginable shape. It might take a while to find your new style, but eventually you will. The point is never to let yourself get discouraged enough to put the bra back on.

I don't wear cammies or a bra replacement. Nothing is going to restrict my breasts. I want to feel every sensation - the wind, the brush of the fabric, everything. It's my personal choice. Some will prefer cammies, an extra shirt, etc. That's still 110% better than the bra only.

A lot of women find going bra-less makes their breasts hurt. Most of what I experienced, and what I have read about other women's experiences, after making this lifestyle change, the pain you initially feel will be gone within a few weeks. Just take it easy with the jumping and exercise in the beginning, and you'll become so comfy you will wonder why you didn't remove the bra from your life years ago!

I feared the 'taboos' of being bra-less. My mother told me I'd sag like my old grandmother (who sagged to her waist) if I didn't wear a bra.

Like I said earlier, going bra-less is unconventional. I was initially afraid of being without a bra when I'm with family. Finally I had the guts to just do it. My daughters noticed, but my mother never has. I explained to them why I wasn't wearing a bra, and they accepted it. My older daughter has also adopted a bra-free lifestyle as well. She knows its the healthier choice. Just try not to think about what the moral majority might think or say. 99.9% of people don't even notice. If you are not being self-conscious (crossing your arms or always looking down at them to see what "they're" doing), but are walking tall and letting your nipples lead the way, nobody will notice you are bra-free. Trust me!

If your workplace dress code specifically requires you wear a bra, then try something  with super light support, or just wear a camisole under your blouse. They won't know the difference. If your job doesn't have a dress code that requires a bra, just be conservative and confident. Nobody will notice.

I sometimes get admiring glances from people when I am out shopping or out to dinner with friends in public on weekends. I'm getting a lot braver when it comes to my wardrobe. I'm not as concerned if my breasts bounce in an obvious way or if my nipples are 'out there'. After all, it is that bouncing that circulates the lymphatic fluids and flushes toxins from my breasts. But at work I'm more careful. I don't mind appreciative stares from men or aghast stares from women, but if it bothers you, you can be very discrete with your wardrobe selections.

When I first removed my bra, I viewed my 'new' body as an older body - boobs sagging lower than they did with the bra - and I thought it made me look old. However, over time, as my breasts have become rounder and have lifted a little bit, I find that I look slimmer. I always felt like a Jersey cow, all strapped up in a bra, with my breasts feeling like they're in my face. I really looked so much heavier when wearing the bra.

An additional bonus to being bra free, at least for me, is my catering to my extreme nipple sensitivity. I feel everything on my nipples, and as I stated earlier, they're very reactionary. But unlike when I was in high school, I am no longer ashamed of them. I am more brave and I let them show... and I'm proud of them. Their freedom and their sensitivity weighed very heavily on my decision to become bra-free. So get healthy, and feel amazing stimulation. What's not to love?

If you choose to make the journey to healthier breasts, you will experience rewards. Health benefits alone are worth it to me, but there are other rewards to being bra-free:

  • Personal strength.

  • Personal power.

  • You can help others make the healthy choice.

  • You get to have a new wardrobe.

  • You will find it makes you much more health-conscious in every other way.

  • And... your husband/partner won't be able to keep their hands off you. Enjoy it. Let them stimulate your nipples and then you will be rewarded with natural oxytocin, which is a hormone released during nipple stimulation and orgasm (you can read the article here on BreastNotes about nipple stimulation and breast health).

  • Your confidence will go through the roof too.

  • You'll feel more feminine and beautiful once you fully transition to the bra-free lifestyle.

My journey has just begun, even after two years. I have just started doing daily breast massage, some breast yoga, moisturizing, skin masks (yes specifically for breasts - with ingredients from my fridge!), and eating specifically for breast health. I will post again at a later date and share my results as they transpire.

Ladies - love your breasts and guard your health. Let your body experience what it was created to experience, and I promise you will always be grateful. Good luck on your journey!

Louise Comstock                                    


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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