My Journey Into
Becoming Bra Free
as long as I can remember, even before my
breasts started to develop, I found that I
have/had extremely sensitive nipples, and they
have always been larger than usual. I liked having my
breasts free. I remember, as a 9 year old with
budding breasts, sneaking into my bedroom to
remove the undershirt my mother insisted I wear.
Looking back, I think she was concerned about my
larger nipples showing through my dresses. I
didn't like wearing the shirt because I couldn't feel the
outer fabric caressing my nipples, or the breeze
blowing through my shirt when I was wearing it.
Because my nipples were so sensitive I missed
the pleasure their stimulation provided to me. Then as my breasts grew, I was always looking at
them and marveling at what beautiful things they
were. I graduated into wearing a bra at 10 years
old (again at my mother's insistence) and that was it.
Other than losing that nice sensation, I never
questioned wearing a bra... ever. I never slept
in one though, and loved the feeling of my
nipples being naked under my night gown when I took
the bra off at bedtime.
adolescent and throughout high school, I was
hyper aware if my large nipples would stick out
through my bra. At one point I tried using
Band-Aids over my nipples (inside my bra) to
hold them down. I was mortified to have anyone
look at them. I would hold my school books over
them when in the hallway, or wear super heavy
clothing to hide them. They were always so
sensitive to everything (still are), and reacted
to everything by poking straight out.
was diagnosed at age 13 with ovarian cancer.
They only found it because I had a cyst the size
of a football on my left ovary. My OB/Gyn took
the ovary and a large margin "just in case", and
that is what saved me. I have been cancer free
to this day. I gave birth to 4 beautiful
children and went into menopause in my
was widowed at 24 while I was 7 months pregnant
with my third child. I remarried two years later
to a real 'breast' man, and after having
breastfed three babies, my breasts had shrunken
down to be quite small (an A-cup). My new
husband wanted me to have a breast augmentation
surgery, and I agreed because I felt inadequate
for his taste being so flat-chested. The
implants were silicone, a C-cup size, and became
hard very quickly. After that I had one more
child which I also breastfed.
Fast forward 13 years... I was divorced with
four teenagers at home. I went for my first
mammogram at age 38 only to find the silicone
implants had ruptured. I had them removed and
replaced them with saline implants which I still
have. Unfortunately the surgeon did not remove
all the free floating silicone in my body. More
about that later.
Throughout my adult life, I have been plagued
with fibroid breast cysts. The results of my
mammograms for years required a follow up
ultrasound, luckily showing nothing of a
worrisome nature, but I continued to have the
breast cysts. Still it's scary and stressful
- waiting close to a month from the time of the
mammogram to the final results of the
my menopausal weight gain came along, my breasts
grew, and with that came more and more cysts.
Nothing to cause concern, but still that scary
waiting period after each annual mammogram. Then
I went to my OB/Gyn for hormone replacement
pellets (bio-identical and the safest, most
natural way of hormone replacement therapy).
With each treatment my breasts would enlarge to
the point that I now have a 36DD bra size. With
the weight of my breasts increasing, I found
grooves in my shoulders from my straps, and deep
red marks from the under-wire bras I was wearing
to bear their weight.
started ditching my bra the minute I'd walk in
the door, and never wore one when I was home
unless I had company coming over (by then I was
a single empty nester with four grown kids and 5
grandchildren). I tried to go out braless
frequently (when my attire wouldn't give me
away) only for the sake of comfort. Then I'd
feel self-conscious about myself so I'd strap
myself back in for the sake of convention.
About two years ago I was researching being
bra-free on the internet, including here on
BreastNotes.com, and discovered the many
issues I've had over the years (the painful bras
and fibroid cysts) were being caused by wearing
a bra. So I bit the bullet and shed my bra.
was a very scary lifestyle transition for me.
What will my children think? What if my nipples
show? What will the general public think?
Because it's not just taking off a piece of
clothing, it's making a complete change in your
lifestyle. Your wardrobe needs adjusting, you
have to figure out how not to be self-conscious
around others, and you need to embrace the
liberation. And on top of all that, you have to
accept the natural shape of your breasts and how
your body looks. It's a very large
emotional/mental body-image change. It takes
time. I got through it - occasionally wearing a
snug tank top under some tops - but mostly being
"out there" with nipples blazing. Someone once
equated transitioning into bra-lessness to
quitting smoking - it takes time and
fearlessness to do it.
good news is - my Cooper's Ligaments became
stronger and have lifted my breasts quite a bit
(if you are not aware, some methods of saline
implant insertions do produce a very natural
sag, so yes even though I have implants they do
droop very naturally). I'm still a DD-cup, I
bounce a lot, and yes, my nipples still peek out
a bazillion times a day, but I even go to the
gym sans bra - no sports bra or tank top. I'm
sure this has contributed to my Cooper's
Ligaments doing their job again.
you are on the fence, maybe some of what I am
about to share will help you to remove your
breast shackles and empower yourself to be the
beautiful, healthy, natural woman you were born
this lifestyle change make my breasts healthier?
Absolutely! My annual mammograms no longer
require follow up ultrasounds. Hurrah!!! I no
longer am getting the fibroid cysts in my
breasts, and the ones I still have are getting
However I do have a collection of silicone
(apparently the silicone seeks it's own and
clumps together in your chest) but until I have
to have them removed I am just living with them.
They don't hurt, and they're not causing any
problems at this point. I learned just before
taking the plunge into bra-freedom that the type
of ovarian cancer I had in my youth is very
similar to many breast cancers, and having
improved mammogram results already is well worth
being bra-free. I will do anything in my power
to keep my 'girls' healthy and well.
I feel weird and strange going braless in the
beginning? YES!!!! Like I said - it's an
emotional/mental lifestyle change. Once you
embrace it, however, you will feel so empowered
and womanly! It will make you a stronger person
in every way, because it's unconventional, and
it takes a lot of guts to do unconventional
my breasts look better? Oh yes they do! Breast
sagging is reduced as you let your body do what
it's supposed to do naturally. The photo below
is recent - and for a pair of DD's they're
looking pretty good - especially considering I
am a 55-year old grandmother of 8! They weren't
as perky in the beginning after I eliminated the
bra, but I learned to love them when first
bra-free for their shape. Now I love them even
have had to make adjustments to the style of
tops I wear. I find some of those empire blouses
that don't tuck in tight under the bust-line
don't work anymore (my breasts hang in the
middle of the line). I have to be careful in
professional and family settings to ensure I
don't wear anything too clingy or see through,
or wear anything that will show my nipples
(which are VERY large and obvious in the wrong
tops). I have learned patterned blouses,
t-shirts and dresses are the best route. The
patterns camouflage nipples very well.
just have to go to the stores and be brave and
try on clothes until you find what fits you
best. Winter is easier as you can layer
sweaters, scarves and jackets over your 'girls'
and nobody's the wiser. Summers here in AZ are
very hot and are more of a challenge. Just get
creative. Just think - you get a new wardrobe to
go with your new lifestyle. Make it fun!! Don't
fall into the trap - the tic in your brain that
says you have to wear only sack-like clothing
because your breasts are large and not being
held up towards your face. There are so many fun
fashions out there for every imaginable shape.
It might take a while to find your new style,
but eventually you will. The point is never to
let yourself get discouraged enough to put the
bra back on.
don't wear cammies or a bra replacement. Nothing
is going to restrict my breasts. I want to feel
every sensation - the wind, the brush of the
fabric, everything. It's my personal choice.
Some will prefer cammies, an extra shirt, etc.
That's still 110% better than the bra only.
lot of women find going bra-less makes their
breasts hurt. Most of what I experienced, and
what I have read about other women's experiences,
making this lifestyle change, the pain you
initially feel will be gone within a few weeks.
Just take it easy with the jumping and exercise
in the beginning, and you'll become so comfy you
will wonder why you didn't remove the bra from
your life years ago!
feared the 'taboos' of being bra-less. My mother
told me I'd sag like my old grandmother (who
sagged to her waist) if I didn't wear a bra.
Like I said earlier, going bra-less is
unconventional. I was initially afraid of being
without a bra when I'm with family. Finally I
had the guts to just do it. My daughters
noticed, but my mother never
has. I explained to them why I
wasn't wearing a bra, and they accepted it. My
older daughter has also adopted a bra-free
lifestyle as well. She knows its the healthier
choice. Just try not to think about what the
moral majority might think or say. 99.9% of
people don't even notice. If you are not being
self-conscious (crossing your arms or always
looking down at them to see what "they're"
doing), but are walking tall and letting
your nipples lead the way, nobody will notice
you are bra-free.
your workplace dress code specifically requires
you wear a bra, then try something with
super light support, or just wear a camisole
under your blouse. They won't know the
difference. If your job doesn't have a dress code that requires a bra,
just be conservative and confident. Nobody will
sometimes get admiring glances from people when
I am out
shopping or out to dinner with friends in public on weekends. I'm
getting a lot braver when it
comes to my wardrobe. I'm not as concerned if my
breasts bounce in an obvious way or if my
nipples are 'out there'. After all, it is that
bouncing that circulates the lymphatic fluids
and flushes toxins from my breasts. But at work
I'm more careful. I don't mind appreciative
stares from men or aghast stares from women, but
if it bothers you, you can
be very discrete with your wardrobe selections.
When I first removed my bra, I viewed my 'new'
body as an older body - boobs sagging lower than
they did with the bra - and I thought it made me
look old. However, over time, as my breasts have become
rounder and have lifted a little bit, I find
that I look slimmer. I always felt like a Jersey
cow, all strapped up in a bra, with my breasts
feeling like they're in my face. I really
looked so much heavier when wearing the bra.
additional bonus to being bra free, at least for
me, is my catering to my extreme nipple
sensitivity. I feel everything on my nipples,
and as I stated earlier, they're very
reactionary. But unlike when I was in high
school, I am no longer ashamed of them. I am
more brave and I let them show... and I'm proud
of them. Their freedom and their sensitivity
weighed very heavily on my decision to become
bra-free. So get healthy, and feel amazing
stimulation. What's not to love?
you choose to make the journey to healthier
breasts, you will experience rewards. Health
benefits alone are worth it to me, but there are
other rewards to being bra-free:
You can help others
make the healthy choice.
You get to have a new
You will find it makes
you much more health-conscious in every
husband/partner won't be able to keep their
hands off you. Enjoy it. Let them stimulate
your nipples and then you will be rewarded
with natural oxytocin, which is a hormone
released during nipple stimulation and
orgasm (you can read the article here on
BreastNotes about nipple
Your confidence will go
through the roof too.
You'll feel more
feminine and beautiful once you fully
transition to the bra-free lifestyle.
journey has just begun, even after two years. I
have just started doing daily breast massage,
some breast yoga, moisturizing, skin masks (yes
specifically for breasts - with ingredients from
my fridge!), and eating specifically for breast
health. I will post again at a later date and
share my results as they transpire.
Ladies - love your breasts and guard your
health. Let your body experience what it was
created to experience, and I promise you will
always be grateful. Good luck on your journey!