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Comments From Those That Have Chosen To Be Bra-Free

We would love to have your story added to this column. If you would like to contribute your comments about how you decided to become bra-free, or what trials and tribulations you found in adopting this new lifestyle, or if you would like to describe your thoughts about whether you would encourage others to do likewise, please feel free to write it down and send it in to Ken@BreastNotes.com. He will work with you and allow you full editorial control over your story. Others are anxious to hear from you.

If you have not worn a bra for the majority of your life, or you have made the choice to no longer wear a bra for the major part of your day, we would dearly appreciate hearing from you.

 Click on the author's name to jump to her story:
Story Number One  --  from Krystale Story Number Two -- from Brenda D. Lemus
Story Number Three  --  from Skye Story Number Four -- from Christie Aphrodite
Story Number Five  --  from Louise Story Number Six  --  from  Angela Smith
Story Number Seven  --  from Sally R Story Number Eight  --  from Karen
Story Number Nine --  from NancyS Story Number Ten --  from Ophelia



Story Number One  -- 
from    Krystale
It was a bit tougher for her as she is lactating
"No longer considering breast reduction... pain is gone... breasts lifted... perkier... no leakage... "
I'm a 44DD (E, I know... but they don't actually sell them that way) and I've done just fine without a bra for well over two years. In the summer, or when I want to be a little discrete, or for work, instead of wearing undershirts I wear those tank tops with the extra... "shelf tank" I think they're called. They're like a two layered tank, and the bottom layer has under-the-bust elastic (but it ends there). They absorb moisture and it gives an extra two layers of cotton to attempt to blend my nipples. Sometimes I wear a jacket when I'm feeling self-conscious. (I was raised by the "good girls wear bras" mother Ken spoke of.)
Before I went braless, I was considering breast reduction, because the pain in my back and shoulders was unbearable. Before I even knew who Ken was I ran across his article one day and switched first to tanks with built-in bras (but removed the under-wires) and then moved on to the "shelf tanks". These days I have no problem going out in just a T-shirt. The back and shoulder pain is GONE, except for a stressful day now and then. The pain used to be constant. My breasts don't hang nearly so low as they used to when I'd take my bra off. While they still get sensitive during my cycle, they don't HURT like they used to. And although I'm lactating, I don't "leak" and I have no need for pads (my flow isn't heavy, which probably helps). I think having been bra free before lactating has something to do with it. Nothing is squeezing anything out.  

Later, she added this note:

On a happy note... bra-free life is still great. The nursing has made them perkier and stronger too. I even got away with going bra-free (despite my cup size) in a Fashion Bug fashion show! They offered a bra but didn't fuss when I refused politely. Be well and nurse merrily.


Story Number Two -- 
from    Brenda D. Lemus
She questions her decision to ever begin wearing a bra
"...I was told women SHOULD wear one... now my breasts do what they're supposed to do..."


Have you ever wondered why you wear a bra?  Moreover, did you ever question it?  I certainly didn’t in the beginning, which is rather strange since I have always questioned everything in my life.  I remember the first time I wore one of these contraptions--and it was certainly not due to my mother’s or family’s subjection to society’s traditions, for they failed to realize that I was developing into a young woman in those days.  So, embarrassed by the fact that every one of my female classmates was already wearing one of these things, and that it was getting obvious that I might “need” one very soon, I asked my best friend if she thought that her mother could give me a bra for my birthday.  Obviously, I was too embarrassed to ask my mother to buy me one.  So, the day came when I, in fact, tried on the so called bra, and... Oh My! Was that an uncomfortable and awkward day for me.  All of a sudden, I felt as if my little breasts had been imprisoned in what seemed to me a questionable item to wear.  That was at age fourteen. 

Then, by age twenty, this “thing” about the bra really bothered me, until one day I said to myself: “Wait a minute . . . why is it that I keep wearing this thing?  It is definitely uncomfortable, I can never find the ‘right’ size (I used to wear an ‘A’ cup, but somehow nothing ever fit me), it is expensive,  and most important of all... men don’t use one!  So, why should I wear one?  Do I need this?”  And, of course, the answer was “NO!”   So, I simply stopped wearing a bra!  And, oh my, was that a great feeling!  Free! No longer subjected to a contraption that I never wanted in the first place, but I began to use because I thought that is what all women should do.   

My friends began to tell me that not wearing a bra  was certainly not a good idea because now my breasts were going to sag earlier in life! Yeah, right!  As if a pair of “A” cup breasts had much to fear in this respect!  And, even if I had been a “D” like my mother, there is no way in the world that I was going to go back to “prison” after experiencing the comfort of simply letting my breasts do what they are supposed to do:  be naturally braless!  I was also told that now my breasts were going to hurt without support.  Well, up to this date, I don’t know what they were talking about since I never experienced any pain of any kind. 

No embarrassment ever happened either.  I discovered that simply wearing a snug camisole did the trick to “hide” those breasts that no one is supposed to “see.”  And, as far as clothing is concerned, I simply continued wearing the same clothes that I wore before.  I just refused to let my life be ruled by what society had imposed on me as a woman.  And so far... no one has ever complained! 

Now, there have been some "looking" every now and then, especially from my male counterparts, who seem rather curious to find out whether I, in fact, am wearing “nothing” underneath my clothes, as my nipples often protrude through the clothes I am wearing.  But, you know what?  I could not care less if they protrude!  I figured that if male nipples sometimes protrude as much as mine (just maybe in a smaller proportion), and they don’t seem to worry about it, why should I? Moreover, I don’t let my being braless prevent me from wearing any clothes that I might want to wear. In fact, some clothes look particularly sexy without a bra! 

So, I don’t let this “nipple problem” deter me from letting my breasts be free under my clothes.  I think that it is time for women to be themselves from all points of view, and to let go of all those societal taboos that seem to constrict us from being who we are: Women! With breasts! That do have nipples!  

One concern of many women regarding the health of their breasts is their movement, and the possibility that they will inevitably sag if a bra is not worn.  People tend to think that the bra actually helps prevent their breasts from sagging by minimizing their movement. However, this could not be farther from the truth.  By not wearing a bra the ligaments of the breast actually get stronger, allowing greater support to the breasts and minimizing their movement.  And this is exactly what has happened to me over the years of running, biking, swimming and powerlifting.  Even when I run now at a small size “B” cup the breast movement is slight and not uncomfortable at all. 

So, in short, my experience as a woman who has not worn a bra for over 90% of her life has been great, and my only regret is having ever worn one!  I have very avidly tried to convince other women to not wear a bra.  The results and consequences of living bra-free are wonderful, and extremely liberating.  Moreover, to be braless is not only exhilarating, but healthier, by all means, and I am sure that there are many more people out there that would embrace the idea of women being braless.  Some of them might be our male partners--husbands, friends, etc.  For all I know, my husband of thirteen years was always happy with the idea of my being bra-free, and never asked me to wear one, nor would I have ever listened anyway.   

Finally, while it is true that being small breasted has made things much easier for me to be bra-free, all women, whether large breasted or small, can manage to be braless in a subtle and effective manner.  Be brave, and venture into a new and healthier way of living for your breasts.  But, above all, think.  Think whether what you are doing with your body when you wear your bra is worth your discomfort, and most importantly, your health.  Wearing a bra is not healthy.  Among several of its disadvantages, wearing a bra interferes with the normal function of the lymphatic flow throughout your breasts, it atrophies the Cooper's Ligaments (thus allowing your breasts to further sag), and it keeps your breasts at a higher temperature than they are supposed to be. 

It is clear that my 51-year old breasts have certainly not suffered from my not wearing a bra for the last thirty-three years. This image was taken in late 2010. I believe that their lifted stature is a direct result of my Ligaments of Cooper actively supporting my breasts while I ran and did my powerlifting.

I share this information with everyone that I can relay this message to, and hope that one day we will all go back to what should once more come natural to us--the freedom of our breasts!



Story Number Three  -- 
from    Skye
Treat this one as a BLOG... Skye welcomes your comments and questions.
"...they never did fit right... it is so much cooler in the summer... write me about YOUR thoughts..."

My name is Skye. I am in my forties, married, with two children. To physically describe me, I am a tall woman and I like to describe my weight as being "sturdy". I'm actually between 175 and 180 lbs. I'm not really shy about my weight as you can see. Like almost everyone, I'd like to drop a few pounds but that will come in time, especially now that summer is coming. I am a 38-C in breast size.

Several factors encouraged me to go bra-less. I watched a very beloved family member pass away from a nearly fifteen-year fight with breast cancer. Quite frankly she was one of the bravest women that I have ever met. Because of the breast cancer issues, my husband has encouraged me to stop wearing bras.

I also chose to go bra-less because I could never find a bra that would fit... and that I could afford. Being a big woman, most bras would cut into my chest and shoulders. I have also had bras where one breast would fit and the other one wouldn't . I bought a silicone insert to "balance" myself out. I also felt very constricted while wearing a bra. I felt like I had iron bands wrapped around my chest restricting my breathing.

I live in the Southwest and the heat here at times can be unbearable. I hate to sweat into bras. I have tried going bra-less before and found that I have been more comfortable without them.

I am also a little rebellious in nature. I try not to fall into the marketing traps. Companies tell you "If you buy my product, you will be more attractive." My rebelliousness (or stubbornness?) nags at me when it comes to that kind of pressure. I tell myself that I know better, but I sometimes cave in to it anyway, and usually I'm disappointed. This attitude applies to wearing bras, and I feel I don't need a bra or a certain brand of bra to make me feel more attractive.

I have chosen to talk about this issue for several reasons. I would like to encourage women who want to go bra-less to make the intelligent decision to do so. I don't want it to appear that I'm pushing women to go without a bra, because I don't feel that it is right to push my beliefs on someone else. These are MY reasons why I have decided to go bra-less. I hope to put a human element to this topic by later describing my feelings, some of my second thoughts, the reactions from my employer and friends, etc., because I know I will face opposition when it comes to this topic and I'm willing to address those issues.

I hope to hear back from other readers concerning this topic. Please address your comments and questions for me to Skye here at BreastNotes.com . I hope to not only learn from this bra-less experience but from others who write in as well.

I wish everyone a wonderful day.


Mrs. Skye,

Thanks for your insightful comments on the subject of going braless and your willingness to share. I turned 31 on December 30th and until last September I had always worn a bra. I just thought that was what we did. I thought that breasts stuffed into those tortuous contraptions was just the picture of boob health and was just us doing our reps. But how could it be? How could a person's arm get stronger if always in a cast? How could a paralyzed person experience anything but atrophy? How could any body part strengthen from lack of use?

Then my husband and I began reading about how bras restrict lymphatic circulation, cause us to retain toxins, and greatly increase the odds of getting breast cancer. It was just logical and made sense. It also scared my husband to death because like you, I had an aunt who died from it.

We talked about and agreed that intelligent people change their course of action when new facts disprove their previous notions. We talked about how the evidence did not show that bras kept the breasts from sagging. Billy wanted me to start going totally bra free. I knew it was for the best. I really did. But I fell back on the safety of the known and lobbied for a reduction in bra-wearing.

Bill was not crazy about half-ass measures. We have this way of making decisions or submitting new ideas. One of us will say new rule and suggests their idea. If it's agreed on, it's binding and can only be changed if we both agree. Billy submitted a new rule that both for the health benefits and for his pleasure in enjoying giggling boobs that I would be "forbidden" to wear a bra. I could have said no or countered, but I agreed unconditionally. This was for the best because I needed to do this, but could have wimped out. This made it policy around here. And I'm in full accord with that.

I experienced a bra withdrawal. I am not quite as big as you, but am a 36-C. I was worried that being bra-free was just for girls that were 18 and/or small busted, not for me. I worried that my breasts would sag from the lack of support. My husband (sort of my coach on this) encouraged me to stay the course. He told me that these health benefits were not limited to kids and the flat chested, and that full-figured women probably needed it more because they needed to increase circulation over a larger area.

Also, I did not sag. My boobs have remained high, firm, and upturned, which makes me question the bra's function of providing support. I now look at September 6th as the day my husband liberated my boobs from the bra and I have asked that he never let them be taken prisoner again!


Kim C.


Story Number Four  -- 
from    Christie
"The bra-free thing has done MUCH more for me than just the physical benefits, but I will try to remember them all here to share with you......."
Wow Ken! Thank you so much! Your article is FABULOUS and I think it will REALLY make a difference for women, being that they ALWAYS seem to bring up the question of what they see on National Geographic and ultra sagging breasts. I think that is one of the biggest things that keeps women from ditching the bras! How crazy is that, huh? Looks over health! I always try to explain to them that not ALL cultures are that way and that SOME actually tug at their breasts to make them longer due to their beliefs in their society...
Those photos will REALLY blow people's minds! EXCELLENT WORK THERE! Thank you! :-)
The bra free thing has done MUCH more for me than just the physical benefits... Not only have my breasts lifted and don't hang in my armpits anymore when lying on my back, I have lost my stretch marks, as well as the cysts and a clearly hard and firm lump I had in my left breast before I removed my bra.
No more menstrual pain at all, no breast tenderness, and no more back pain which is something I suffered with ever since I can remember! AND I attribute my emotional, mental and spiritual growth of true freedom and becoming (discovering) my true self to my deciding to be bra-free. It has opened me up in ways that are hard for me to put in words, but I was able to tackle many fears I have held onto in my life....my self consciousness, my fear of speaking publicly and making videos, my coaching business and it has opened me up to new revelations. I was doing this strictly for health reasons; I had no idea that it not only would help me physically, but emotionally, spiritually and mentally as well. It has helped me accept my femininity in a way that can only be understood by experience. My confidence levels have risen astronomically and I am a much happier person over all.
Go figure...it's hard to think clearly and get centered when you can't breath! I felt so constricted my whole life and had no idea that it was due to the bra! I was also pretty uptight and easier to 'program' and 'buy into' the self-hate that seems to be promoted! LOL

I knew the bra didn't feel good and I always looked forward to taking it off...but I was also programmed with the idea that I " ...better wear one full time or I will sag even worse!"  HAHAHAAHHAA

Blessings and Love,



Catch a couple of Christie's YouTube videos about her going bra-free at the following locations:




Story Number Five  -- 
from    Louise
"I consider it my mission to bring others to the bra-free lifestyle/movement!
        If I help one person I will feel forever blessed.

My Journey Into Becoming Bra Free

For as long as I can remember, even before my breasts started to develop, I found that I have/had extremely sensitive nipples, and they have always been larger than usual. I liked having my breasts free. I remember, as a 9 year old with budding breasts, sneaking into my bedroom to remove the undershirt my mother insisted I wear. Looking back, I think she was concerned about my larger nipples showing through my dresses. I didn't like wearing the shirt because I couldn't feel the outer fabric caressing my nipples, or the breeze blowing through my shirt when I was wearing it. Because my nipples were so sensitive I missed the pleasure their stimulation provided to me. Then as my breasts grew, I was always looking at them and marveling at what beautiful things they were. I graduated into wearing a bra at 10 years old (again at my mother's insistence) and that was it. Other than losing that nice sensation, I never questioned wearing a bra... ever. I never slept in one though, and loved the feeling of my nipples being naked under my night gown when I took the bra off at bedtime.

As an adolescent and throughout high school, I was hyper aware if my large nipples would stick out through my bra. At one point I tried using Band-Aids over my nipples (inside my bra) to hold them down. I was mortified to have anyone look at them. I would hold my school books over them when in the hallway, or wear super heavy clothing to hide them. They were always so sensitive to everything (still are), and reacted to everything by poking straight out.

I was diagnosed at age 13 with ovarian cancer. They only found it because I had a cyst the size of a football on my left ovary. My OB/Gyn took the ovary and a large margin "just in case", and that is what saved me. I have been cancer free to this day. I gave birth to 4 beautiful children and went into menopause in my mid-forties.

I was widowed at 24 while I was 7 months pregnant with my third child. I remarried two years later to a real 'breast' man, and after having breastfed three babies, my breasts had shrunken down to be quite small (an A-cup). My new husband wanted me to have a breast augmentation surgery, and I agreed because I felt inadequate for his taste being so flat-chested. The implants were silicone, a C-cup size, and became hard very quickly. After that I had one more child which I also breastfed.

Fast forward 13 years... I was divorced with four teenagers at home. I went for my first mammogram at age 38 only to find the silicone implants had ruptured. I had them removed and replaced them with saline implants which I still have. Unfortunately the surgeon did not remove all the free floating silicone in my body. More about that later.

Throughout my adult life, I have been plagued with fibroid breast cysts. The results of my mammograms for years required a follow up ultrasound, luckily showing nothing of a worrisome nature, but I continued to have the breast cysts. Still it's scary and stressful - waiting close to a month from the time of the mammogram to the final results othe ultrasound.

As my menopausal weight gain came along, my breasts grew, and with that came more and more cysts. Nothing to cause concern, but still that scary waiting period after each annual mammogram. Then I went to my OB/Gyn for hormone replacement pellets (bio-identical and the safest, most natural way of hormone replacement therapy). With each treatment my breasts would enlarge to the point that I now have a 36DD bra size. With the weight of my breasts increasing, I found grooves in my shoulders from my straps, and deep red marks from the under-wire bras I was wearing to bear their weight.

I started ditching my bra the minute I'd walk in the door, and never wore one when I was home unless I had company coming over (by then I was a single empty nester with four grown kids and 5 grandchildren). I tried to go out braless frequently (when my attire wouldn't give me away) only for the sake of comfort. Then I'd feel self-conscious about myself so I'd strap myself back in for the sake of convention.

About two years ago I was researching being bra-free on the internet, including here on BreastNotes.com, and discovered the many issues I've had over the years (the painful bras and fibroid cysts) were being caused by wearing a bra. So I bit the bullet and shed my bra.

It was a very scary lifestyle transition for me. What will my children think? What if my nipples show? What will the general public think?

Because it's not just taking off a piece of clothing, it's making a complete change in your lifestyle. Your wardrobe needs adjusting, you have to figure out how not to be self-conscious around others, and you need to embrace the liberation. And on top of all that, you have to accept the natural shape of your breasts and how your body looks. It's a very large emotional/mental body-image change. It takes time. I got through it - occasionally wearing a snug tank top under some tops - but mostly being "out there" with nipples blazing. Someone once equated transitioning into bra-lessness to quitting smoking - it takes time and fearlessness to do it.

The good news is - my Cooper's Ligaments became stronger and have lifted my breasts quite a bit (if you are not aware, some methods of saline implant insertions do produce a very natural sag, so yes even though I have implants they do droop very naturally). I'm still a DD-cup, I bounce a lot, and yes, my nipples still peek out a bazillion times a day, but I even go to the gym sans bra - no sports bra or tank top. I'm sure this has contributed to my Cooper's Ligaments doing their job again.

If you are on the fence, maybe some of what I am about to share will help you to remove your breast shackles and empower yourself to be the beautiful, healthy, natural woman you were born to be!!

Did this lifestyle change make my breasts healthier? Absolutely! My annual mammograms no longer require follow up ultrasounds. Hurrah!!! I no longer am getting the fibroid cysts in my breasts, and the ones I still have are getting smaller.

However I do have a collection of silicone (apparently the silicone seeks it's own and clumps together in your chest) but until I have to have them removed I am just living with them. They don't hurt, and they're not causing any problems at this point. I learned just before taking the plunge into bra-freedom that the type of ovarian cancer I had in my youth is very similar to many breast cancers, and having improved mammogram results already is well worth being bra-free. I will do anything in my power to keep my 'girls' healthy and well.

Did I feel weird and strange going braless in the beginning? YES!!!!  Like I said - it's an emotional/mental lifestyle change. Once you embrace it, however, you will feel so empowered and womanly! It will make you a stronger person in every way, because it's unconventional, and it takes a lot of guts to do unconventional things.

Do my breasts look better? Oh yes they do! Breast sagging is reduced as you let your body do what it's supposed to do naturally. The photo below is recent - and for a pair of DD's they're looking pretty good - especially considering I am a 55-year old grandmother of 8! They weren't as perky in the beginning after I eliminated the bra, but I learned to love them when first bra-free for their shape. Now I love them even more.

I have had to make adjustments to the style of tops I wear. I find some of those empire blouses that don't tuck in tight under the bust-line don't work anymore (my breasts hang in the middle of the line). I have to be careful in professional and family settings to ensure I don't wear anything too clingy or see through, or wear anything that will show my nipples (which are VERY large and obvious in the wrong tops). I have learned patterned blouses, t-shirts and dresses are the best route. The patterns camouflage nipples very well.

You just have to go to the stores and be brave and try on clothes until you find what fits you best. Winter is easier as you can layer sweaters, scarves and jackets over your 'girls' and nobody's the wiser. Summers here in AZ are very hot and are more of a challenge. Just get creative. Just think - you get a new wardrobe to go with your new lifestyle. Make it fun!!  Don't fall into the trap - the tic in your brain that says you have to wear only sack-like clothing because your breasts are large and not being held up towards your face. There are so many fun fashions out there for every imaginable shape. It might take a while to find your new style, but eventually you will. The point is never to let yourself get discouraged enough to put the bra back on.

I don't wear cammies or a bra replacement. Nothing is going to restrict my breasts. I want to feel every sensation - the wind, the brush of the fabric, everything. It's my personal choice. Some will prefer cammies, an extra shirt, etc. That's still 110% better than the bra only.

A lot of women find going bra-less makes their breasts hurt. Most of what I experienced, and what I have read about other women's experiences, after making this lifestyle change, the pain you initially feel will be gone within a few weeks. Just take it easy with the jumping and exercise in the beginning, and you'll become so comfy you will wonder why you didn't remove the bra from your life years ago!

I feared the 'taboos' of being bra-less. My mother told me I'd sag like my old grandmother (who sagged to her waist) if I didn't wear a bra.

Like I said earlier, going bra-less is unconventional. I was initially afraid of being without a bra when I'm with family. Finally I had the guts to just do it. My daughters noticed, but my mother never has. I explained to them why I wasn't wearing a bra, and they accepted it. My older daughter has also adopted a bra-free lifestyle as well. She knows its the healthier choice. Just try not to think about what the moral majority might think or say. 99.9% of people don't even notice. If you are not being self-conscious (crossing your arms or always looking down at them to see what "they're" doing), but are walking tall and letting your nipples lead the way, nobody will notice you are bra-free. Trust me!

If your workplace dress code specifically requires you wear a bra, then try something  with super light support, or just wear a camisole under your blouse. They won't know the difference. If your job doesn't have a dress code that requires a bra, just be conservative and confident. Nobody will notice.

I sometimes get admiring glances from people when I am out shopping or out to dinner with friends in public on weekends. I'm getting a lot braver when it comes to my wardrobe. I'm not as concerned if my breasts bounce in an obvious way or if my nipples are 'out there'. After all, it is that bouncing that circulates the lymphatic fluids and flushes toxins from my breasts. But at work I'm more careful. I don't mind appreciative stares from men or aghast stares from women, but if it bothers you, you can be very discrete with your wardrobe selections.

When I first removed my bra, I viewed my 'new' body as an older body - boobs sagging lower than they did with the bra - and I thought it made me look old. However, over time, as my breasts have become rounder and have lifted a little bit, I find that I look slimmer. I always felt like a Jersey cow, all strapped up in a bra, with my breasts feeling like they're in my face. I really looked so much heavier when wearing the bra.

An additional bonus to being bra free, at least for me, is my catering to my extreme nipple sensitivity. I feel everything on my nipples, and as I stated earlier, they're very reactionary. But unlike when I was in high school, I am no longer ashamed of them. I am more brave and I let them show... and I'm proud of them. Their freedom and their sensitivity weighed very heavily on my decision to become bra-free. So get healthy, and feel amazing stimulation. What's not to love?

If you choose to make the journey to healthier breasts, you will experience rewards. Health benefits alone are worth it to me, but there are other rewards to being bra-free:

  • Personal strength.

  • Personal power.

  • You can help others make the healthy choice.

  • You get to have a new wardrobe.

  • You will find it makes you much more health-conscious in every other way.

  • And... your husband/partner won't be able to keep their hands off you. Enjoy it. Let them stimulate your nipples and then you will be rewarded with natural oxytocin, which is a hormone released during nipple stimulation and orgasm (you can read the article here on BreastNotes about nipple stimulation and breast health).

  • Your confidence will go through the roof too.

  • You'll feel more feminine and beautiful once you fully transition to the bra-free lifestyle.

My journey has just begun, even after two years. I have just started doing daily breast massage, some breast yoga, moisturizing, skin masks (yes specifically for breasts - with ingredients from my fridge!), and eating specifically for breast health. I will post again at a later date and share my results as they transpire.

Ladies - love your breasts and guard your health. Let your body experience what it was created to experience, and I promise you will always be grateful. Good luck on your journey!

Louise Comstock                                    



Story Number Six  -- 
from  Angela Smith
"Together, we can push the boundary and create the change that is necessary for the health of all women."


If you’re reading this, it’s quite possible you’ve arrived at this place out of a sense of desperation, as I myself did only just a few short months ago. Knowing now all that I have learned – information that I wish I’d had 20 years ago which would have saved me decades of physical discomfort and emotional upset – I feel a deep obligation to share my story with the hope that other women may benefit from my experience.

I’m a 48-year-old childless-by-choice college educated professional woman (bra size 38D) who has suffered since my early 20s with the painful symptoms of Fibrocystic Breast Disease. Mammograms, ultrasounds, and needle biopsies became an increasingly frequent routine for me over the years, one which I found to be both frustrating and frightening as doctors and radiology technicians could only tell me “…most woman have fibrocystic breasts, but we don’t know what causes it.”

Fast forward to early 2014, when my symptoms and discomfort became so severe that I resorted to wearing a double-layer – one on top of the other – of high-compression, underwire sports bras 24-hours per day for months on end, removing the garments only to shower (which perhaps you can relate to as a  fairly excruciating experience). Even with my ladies on “lock down”, though, I could never find relief.  I was uncomfortable wearing the bras; I was uncomfortable NOT wearing the bras. I wore the bras to bed, but finding a position to sleep in was almost impossible. The culmination of this experience was yet another doctor-ordered mammogram to screen “suspicious” lumps in my breast tissue. There was no way to schedule the mammogram around the breast pain because I was ALWAYS in pain. Due to the fibrous tissue of my breasts, the technician was unable to get a “good” picture, and so had to repeat the process many times on each breast, while I became increasingly and vocally concerned that my very large cysts might burst from the compression of the machine.  Once again, I was told by the radiologist that they don’t know what causes FBD, but that “most women have it.”   

On this particular occasion, the parting shot from the interpreting physician was that having fibrocystic breasts may increase the chances of developing breast cancer, but…  “don’t be overly concerned.”  !!!!  It was then that I knew I needed to take matters into my own hands if I were to have any hope of healing or at least minimizing this seemingly “mysterious” condition that “most women have.”

Over the next several months, I researched and read like a woman possessed, trying many new things and eliminating others from my lifestyle in an attempt to identify the cause or triggers of my FBD.  After 3-4 months, I did begin to note some very marginal improvement and by that time, I was no longer having to wear a bra 24-hours a day (although there were still very obviously palpable cysts in both of my breasts, many of which had been there for YEARS and had been increasing in size as time continued on…).  One of the sources of information I consulted was a book titled Dressed To Kill by Sydney Ross Singer, which explores an alleged connection between breast disease (including Fibrocystic Breast Disease) and the regular wearing of a brassiere.  I found it to be an extremely thought-provoking and compelling hypothesis…but admit it did not spur me to action beyond “deep thinking”. 

One of the modalities I was researching at the time was Manual Lymphatic Drainage – specifically breast massage, with the intention to keep the body’s lymphatic flow unobstructed so that toxins may be successfully processed and cleared from the tissues. After consideration and in the spirit of due diligence (and because I was DESPERATE for relief from my constant discomfort), I approached a licensed massage therapist to inquire about MLD breast massage, which was subsequently professionally administered.  I went home afterwards, drank a lot of water as is customary following a massage of any kind, and went to bed, honestly not thinking much more about it.

The next morning, ALL OF THE LUMPS IN MY BREASTS (and the accompanying discomfort) WERE GONE.  It is now three months later, and they have never re-materialized.

In the days immediately following that life-changing experience, a light bulb went off in my head and I began to consider afresh the argument that the constant compression and specific restriction of a brassiere might, in fact, have untold negative consequences on breast health. After several gloriously lump-free, pain-free weeks (during which I admit I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop), I decided that the only way to determine for myself the veracity of this claim beyond the shadow of a doubt would be to TAKE THE BRA OFF.  This was around Christmastime, so I was enjoying an extended holiday away from the office and didn’t particularly care if friends or loved ones happened to realize I was bra-free (plus, in the Midwest, one can always “hide” behind a sweater and scarves!).  But…what to do when I had to go back to the office?

This is how I found BreastNotes.com and the wonderful and extremely knowledgeable breast health educator Ken Smith, who is helping me to navigate this brave new world of full-time Bra Freedom!  Is this an easy transition?  For me, NO.  Not in the slightest.  I’m quite modest by nature and, working in a professional office in Corporate America, I am perhaps overly-sensitive to dress codes and the need to be compliant.  As I map this unknown territory, Ken is proving an invaluable resource to understanding and accepting my “new proportions” and calculating for balance as I create new clothing ensembles that tastefully celebrate – rather than shamefully conceal – the New Me as I stand in my own power and claim my natural femininity.

To any woman who has struggled as I have, who has endured present pain or fear of what your health future may hold, I implore you:  PLEASE, take the first step to reclaim – or perhaps to find for the very first time – the good health that is your birthright. Do not let doctors, “experts”, or bloggers on the Internet tell you “we don’t know what causes breast disease”.  Try a 30-day bra-free experiment and test the theory for yourself.  You have absolutely nothing to lose, but may possibly GAIN many years of good health as a result. Have the courage to step outside our society and cultural norms and see if you don’t feel better.  I’m here to help, and so is Ken! Together, we can push the boundary and create the change that is necessary for the health of all women.

                                                                                                               Angela Smith                          


Experience Angela's learning journey of finding her new style of dressing that will minimize the fact that she is now Bra-Free by going here. (still under construction)



Story Number  Seven -- 
from   Sally R.
"After leaving the bra off for two weeks, my breasts felt much better, which was an unexpected surprise."


After the flu, I had a case of shingles on the right side of my back all the way to the right side of my stomach.  It hurt terribly and I used spray calamine lotion and all kinds of creams on my rash.  I have been told that the rash usually follows your nerves all the way around to my spinal cord.  

After doing a lot of research, it was suggested by one website that fresh air was the best thing for the rash, so I stopped wearing a bra as I was staying home anyway because I was in pain.  In fact, I wore as little as possible.  Wearing a bra everyday was what my mother did and that was what I did, too.  I never questioned why I should or should not wear a bra.  I didn't think I had a choice; women must wear a bra if they are going to be modest.

After leaving the bra off for two weeks, my breasts felt much better which was an unexpected surprise and my rash was much better, too.  I thought about this and if this feels so good to be braless, I need to do more research to see if bras are medically necessary.  Much to my surprise, there were numerous articles about the benefits of going braless, and about cancer related to wearing bras.

I found out that bras were not even invented until 1917 by a woman.  Since that time the bra industry has made women feel if they didn't wear a bra then they were not modest.  The bra industry is a 36 billion dollar a year industry.  If women stopped wearing bras, the bra industry would crash; instead it thrives.  In fact, I own 45 bras and about ten of which I have never worn.

I read online to leave your bra off for three months and you would never go back to wearing a bra.  So, I gathered up all my bras except two and put them in the very back of my closet.  I am on my sixth week of going braless and in three months I am going to throw all of them away.  I do not plan to wear a bra again.  I would rather be braless than take even the slightest chance of getting breast cancer.  Of course, there may be other ways of getting breast cancer, but I can make this lifestyle change now.  I have decided if my nipples show, then I won't look down, nor droop my shoulders, nor put my purse in front of my nipples.  Everyone has nipples, so why worry; I'm not going to cover them up with pasties nor Band Aids because that would make my nipples more obvious.

I started leaving my bra off on February 15th.  I have been to the post office and stood in line with 20 people and my nipples were a little perky, so I didn't look down and no one seemed to notice.  Today, I went to a funeral at church and no one noticed that I was bra-free, but it was cold and I had a coat on some of the time.

For the women who are worried about their nipples showing, think about this; would you rather people see a round circle (pasty) or a rectangular Band Aid under your blouse?  Nipples are natural, Band Aids are not for covering your nipples. Now, I sound pretty bold, but I have not been around my friends yet with my nipples showing as I may shudder over that, but I hope I have strength and commitment to let my nipples show around them.  I will write an update, so please check on BreastNotes.com for updates.  Also, there is a wealth of information on BreastNotes.com and Ken will answer any questions you might have.

Recently, I took a short trip and it is the first time in my life that I didn't pack a bra nor wear one the entire trip. It was amazing how good it felt to not be bound by a bra for a whole week.  This may have been the turning point for me as I did not even care if I owned a bra.  I was encouraged that I had made a choice that was right for me. 

Today, I went shopping, got a pedicure, went out to eat and being braless felt great.  No one seemed to notice and my nipples were perky.  I even went to the doctor braless and no problem.

My sister-in-law has gone braless for years as she watched her mother struggle with breast cancer and eventually die from cancer.  She said that when her nipples were perky, whoever didn't want to see them could look somewhere else. I was very surprised that she had been brafree for years.  My mother had a cyst removed from her breast and she always wore a bra.  Mammograms really hurt her and they hurt me, too.  I usually check my breasts once a month.

I have started massaging my breasts every morning and night.  There is an article on BreastNotes.com on how to massage your breasts correctly and I am going to try their method.  Massaging your breasts make them feel better, although at first, it seems odd.  Try to read all the articles on BreastNotes.com because there is a lot of information.

I massage my breasts every morning and night.  I use about 1 teaspoon of coconut oil and warm it in my hands and massage one breast at a time.  I massage around the areola and move my hand in a circular motion and then outward to drain toward my lymph nodes under my arms.  Next I bring the skin under my arms upward to my breasts.  Then I massage in a circular motion around my entire breast.  Then I massage my other breast taking about three minutes for each breast.  Lastly, I lift my arms to the sky inhaling and exhaling and staying with my arms lifted for several seconds and I do this ten times. This aids in lymphatic circulation in my breasts.

I haven't made any changes to my wardrobe except I bought a couple of lightweight vests.  My real test is coming this week when I play cards with my friend and then I go out of town to visit my sister.  It is going to be 80 degrees so I won't be able to cover my nipples with my vest.  I have decided if anyone asks, I will share the research I have been doing.  I have some tank tops and a lace bandeau but I don't plan to wear them.  This is my choice and I can do it.

I am 65+ years old and I have worn a bra since I was 12 years old.  I am 5'4" and I did wear a 44-D bra and I am a little chunky, but I have lost weight recently and I plan to continue losing weight.  I am a Christian and attend church regularly. I like to play bridge and all kinds of card games.  I live in the Southwest where it gets very hot in the summer, and it may be a little harder to keep my nipples from showing then, but I am resolved to let them show as they are a gift from God.  I am married and have grown children.  I like to read and I like to go to the movies.

To help you better understand that large breasted women can go braless, I am enclosing three images.  I hope to update you on my experiences and to see if my sagging has improved.  If you have any questions for me, please ask Ken at BreastNotes.com and he will forward your e-mail to me.

                                                                                                                                              Sally R



March 26th, 2015

Last week I got together with several of my friends to play cards and I wore a colorful print top that was very sheer and unlined.  Because of the print, it was hard to tell that I was not wearing a bra.  No one said anything to me, but I don't imagine anyone cared one way or the other.  I had decided if anyone had said anything I would tell them about my research on wearing a bra.   

My next social event was to visit my sister and her family.  I chose a thin black shirt, but I wore a vest over it.  No one seemed to notice and I know if my sister had noticed, she would have asked me about it.  I am not as bold as I thought I was, however. 

So, this is to say anyone can pull off going braless if they dress with a vest or even a very sheer shirt as long as it is colorful or patterned.  Now, in saying that, when I wear a shirt that my nipples protrude... that may be a different story. 

My husband asked me today if I was wearing a bra?  I said that I was not and he said that I should have given them up years ago, and he was proud of me for making that change.  He didn't think bras were good for women.  

By massaging my breasts twice daily, the nipple on my right breast that was always semi-inverted before I started my massaging is no longer inverted and stands free of my areola, as you can see on these before/after images.


April 23

I have been bra free 2 1/2 months and I am definitely not going to put one back onMy breasts feel much better than they did three months ago.    I still can't get rid of all my bras even though I don't plan to wear them.  I feel that not wearing a bra is one of the best decisions that I have made for myself.  In fact, my posture is better because I am standing up straighter to keep my breasts up.


April 25

In doing, research, I have found that the bra industry wants you to think that you must wear a bra to be modest.  However, the lingerie business promotes push-up bras that lift your breasts and push your breasts together so you can wear a low top and let your breasts show nearly to your nipples.  Shelf bras hold you up high, lace bras can be seen through sheer blouses so the bra industry is making you feel that you must have the latest bra to look good in your clothes and be modest.  Are these very modest?  Several of my bras have the underwire that have poked the side of my breasts until it has red marks that lasted for days.  The push-up bras were so tight that I was relieved when I could get home and take the bra off.  Most of my bras are made from petroleum based material that is not good for you.  

Just think of the material that goes into making your bra.  Polyester is a synthetic fiber derived from coal, air, water, and petroleum.  It was developed in a 20th century laboratory.  Nylon is a synthetic fabric made from petroleum products.  It was developed in the 1930s.  The good fabrics are silk, cotton, and wool.  Silk is a natural protein fiber, some forms of which can be woven into textiles.  Cotton is a natural fiber made from the cotton plant.  Wool is the hair of sheep.

Many of the chemicals in our bras and clothes are harmful to our skin and the skin covers our entire body.  The skin acts as a physical barrier to many of the pollutants in the atmosphere.

I have been noticing that more and more women are wising up and not following like sheep, but are making the decision to go braless.  It is not easy to make the decision to go braless when you have worn a bra for sixty years and you are concerned about what everyone will think, especially family and close friends.  However, since the subject of breast cancer came up, I seized the opportunity to tell my friends of the possible connection of bras and breast cancer and that I had made the decision to go braless.   I am hoping that they will make the same decision.


May 16

Recently I heard a medical professional say that if more women would go bra-free, it would become the norm, and it would be a lot easier to go bra-free in the workplace.  Too many professional women are afraid of losing their jobs if they decided to go bra-free. 

I have been bra-free for over three months now, and it is much easier now because I know how to dress better for whatever the occasion is going to be.  I wear a thicker material or a vest on top of my blouse if I am going to church, a funeral, or a family gathering.  When I take my dog for a walk, I wear a thinner material so that my breasts can wiggle to get a massage.  Also, I have found that most people are so busy with their own lives that they don't bother to look at my breasts to see if I am wearing a bra.  Another reason is that I am more confident now without wearing a bra. 

I enjoy not being bound in a restricted and tight bra, and it would be hard to go back to wearing a bra. I can't believe that retired women wouldn't want to enjoy that freedom. 

Eventually, I may be able to throw my bras away, but not yet, and I don't know why.  I don't want to wear one, but I guess I am afraid I might need one. I need help with that. Maybe after six months I will be able to do so.


February 18th, 2016 

I have been bra-free for a year now.  I am not one to say "never", but I will never go back to wearing a bra.  I do not even think about putting a bra on at all.  It is so comfortable without having a bra binding me. I put on a bra once during this past year (for an hour) and it was a very comfortable bra, but I had to keep pulling the straps up as they kept falling down, so… No More!  It is a shame so many women think they must wear a bra, as you can be very modest while going without one.  

I feel much better about my breasts now, and my nipples. One was always inverted, so I put the suction cup on both nipples and it was easier for me to do at night (see below).  I have made up my mind that if they show through my garments… that is okay.  Since I don't feel embarrassed, nor do I look down all the time to draw attention to my nipples, not many people pay any attention anyway.  Everyone is concerned about themselves so much, that only a few notice. My husband and I both like my new nipples.  And no, it does not change the way I am dressing.  

My husband took me out for Valentines lunch after church and we had an enjoyable dinner.  The ladies that I see all the time do not mention bras at all.  One of my friends that moved away does go bra-free.   

My husband and I do like how my breasts look.  I am very pleased that I made this decision.  I can dress very modestly for church and other occasions by being careful on my choice of fabric and color.  If I choose a light color, I can always wear a vest or sweater over it.  I have worn tops in which you can see the outline of my nipples, but I just don't think about it and people don't seem to notice. 

I am so happy that I am bra-free.  I wish I had decided to go bra free twenty years ago.

Inverted Nipple 

I bought two small suction cups made for the nipple.  I rubbed clear lip gloss on the nipple and inside the suction cup, then I put the suction cup over the nipple and gently squeezed on two sides, bringing the nipple inside the cup.  I left it on 15 minutes.  I added 15 minutes every night working up to three hours.  Some nights, I would put it on several times during the night. When you take it off, if your nipple is white, or it starts to hurt, don’t leave it on so long next time. You can do this during the day or night, whichever is convenient to you. You can see how this procedure helped my inverted nipple: 

    March 2015                                                    February 2016





Story Number Eight  -- 
from    Karen

"I made the decision to go braless many years ago, after my mother died of breast cancer at the age of 56."

Better Braless

I had been working in the health food business and studied the lymphatic system, and how movement helps cleanse toxins out of the body through these glands.  Many lymph glands are located in the armpits and I reasoned it would not be healthy for my breasts to be strapped in and prevented from moving and "breathing" all day. 

In the many years, I did wear a bra, I always felt tremendous relief, when at the end of the day, I took the "hot, smothering, slingshot" off my breasts.  I slowly started realizing how unnatural and unhealthy it felt to strap myself in every morning. 

It was not an overnight change, but my mother's death certainly accelerated the decision. 

I dress in slightly thicker, better quality, mostly cotton knit tops and dresses.  V-neck and open neck shirts seem the most flattering.  High and round neck tops tend to create the "uni-boob" look, even with a bra, so I stay away from these.  I always cover a thin fabric with a jacket or vest. 

I feel this is just one of the health choices I try to make each day and once you set your "girls" free, it's pretty impossible to make yourself strap them back in again. 

If you do still feel the necessity for the status quo, I would suggest at least choosing unpadded, all cotton bras.  This seems a much healthier choice to me as most padding for bras  is made from oil-based synthetic fiber that keeps the breasts from breathing.  Our skin is another cleansing organ for the body and natural fibers allow the body to breathe much better. 

Whichever is your choice, I wish you good health and a long, happy life.



Story Number Nine  -- 
from    Nancy S.
"My breasts are no longer as painful as they were before I eliminated my bras. I do not plan to ever put one back on again."

My mother had a cyst in her breast and had to have the cyst removed and it was very painful, but it was benign.  However, later in life she had a form of Leukemia that the doctor was not going to treat as she was 84 years old.  My son has Multiple Myeloma cancer and I know a few women who have died of breast cancer, so I started thinking about cancer and wondered why they could not find a cure. 

While I was recovering from shingles I decided to do research about cysts and breast cancer and found that wearing bras may contribute to breast cancer.  The more I read on other websites and then on this website, I decided I must make a decision. I read most of the articles on BreastNotes.com and the stories from other ladies and decided I would try leaving off my bra.  It was very hard at first, but it felt better as the weeks passed.  I have been bra-free for several months now. My breasts are no longer as painful as they were before I eliminated my bras. I feel so much better that I do not plan to ever put one back on again.

I feel like I am breathing better. I am an asthmatic, but it has been under control for the last five years. It really feels like I am getting more air in my lungs since I don't have a tight bra on.

I shared my findings with my friends and women that I meet. I have convinced one lady to not wear a bra as she has found a lump in her breasts and is waiting to see the doctor. When I told her about the research she said she took her bra off immediately.

My girlfriends and I went out to eat today to celebrate an event and the conversation came around to someone who had cancer.  This gave me my opening, but I thought now or never.  So, I started telling them about the research that I have been doing on breast cancer.  I told them about when the bra was invented, about the multi-billion dollar a year bra industry, and the mammogram industry that would have to close if there wasn't any breast cancer.  Then I told them about the lymphatic system draining under your arms and that the jiggle of your breasts when you walk was actually good for you. 

They all starred at me and one asked, " Are you wearing a bra?"  I said "No, and I don't plan to wear one again."  Then there was silence.  One lady said "I wouldn't feel right without a bra" and another said "Mine are too big to go without". 

I said "Well, take it off when you get home".  I think some of them may do their own research, and some of them will try it.  They are all 60 plus in age, so it is hard for them to change.  I know some of them thought I am nuts or an immodest woman.  However, I feel that I have tried to help my friends and they will just have to decide for themselves.
The important thing is that the subject is now open, and they hopefully will ask questions later.

                                   Nancy S.



Story Number Ten  -- 
from    Ophelia
"I no longer have the headaches and I feel very free and light!"


'I always loved lingerie, especially bras. I would go crazy whenever I go shopping. I would always end up spending more for bras. This became worse to the point it was almost an obsession. Even my mother started to worry about my spending habit and obsession with bras. I thought about why I couldn't stop and realized finally the cause of this behavior was because of insecurity about my body image and myself overall.

This insecurity has been bothering me deep down, and buying bras and wearing one every day, 24 hours a day, was what I thought would make me feel better about my self-image, because it made me feel more feminine.

But then I was still not fully satisfied or happy because I had physical conditions such as mild to severe headaches and migraines bothering me. Also, I got tired easily, and always had trouble falling asleep. This went on for years... half of my life since I started to wear a bra when I was about 10 years old.

But then, recently, I read about how wearing a bra is bad for women's health. I read more about it here on BreastNotes. As soon as I read it, I took off my bra. and it has been about one week that I have not worn a bra, even for one second. I no longer have the headaches and I feel very free and light! Now I have better blood circulation and no blockage of the lymphatic system in my breasts.

 I hope other women consider becoming bra-free,  and they start to feel their body becoming healthier!




Story Number Eleven --
from    Kim C.
"Why should I stop dressing sexy just because I am not wearing a bra?"


Braless fashion is one of those things that can be as simple or as complicated as you want it to be. For us, I didn't start wearing anything or stop wearing anything because I was braless. We figured that a bra did not save bad fashion just as the lack of a bra does not ruin otherwise good fashion.

Since we were making a permanent commitment to this choice, I had to get comfortable in my clothes. After my 'bra-withdrawaI' period, I decided I had to find this bra-free comfort. I was not going to cut sleeves out of a loose-fitting burlap bag or dress like a shapeless blob. I was also not going to dress in my normal clothing but walk around with my arms folded across my chest. If a woman makes this breast-health choice, people are going to know that she is braless. They are going to see breast movement. They are going to see the shape of nipples. If they see you more than once, they will know it's a habit for you.

Yes, you will get a disapproving glance once in a while. Or, you will get the teenage popcorn boy at the movies with his eyes following your boobs. But for the most part, people are too busy living their own lives to really care. It can also be a chance to educate. I am close to convincing my sister to lose her bra.

On a Friday date night, Billy still likes me to wear some of my dresses that are just slightly low cut that he finds sexy. And I dress more conservatively when at my husband's business or when we attend church. So why should I stop dressing sexy just because I am not wearing a bra? Why should bra-free fashion be an either/or question?

Take Care,

                                   Kim C.


























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